Flying Monkeys or Enablers

Flying Monkeys is a term derived from the movie, The Wizard of Oz, which is used in context with narcissists who have third-party people to do their bidding in causing harm to the narcissist' victim.  The flying monkeys are always for the narcissist rather knowingly or unknowingly in that they are used as tools by the narcissist in an attempt to control, manipulate, gaslight, and frequently run a smear campaign against the victim as part of the narcissist' plans for character assassination to make themselves appear as the victim and gain support by their loyal subjects

Traits of Enablers

Enablers repeatedly come to the rescue of the Narcissist (Narc).

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Enablers lecture, blame and criticize the Narc's victim.

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Enablers think the problem will improve, given time.

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Enablers can sometimes be victims of the narcissist, but in not all cases.

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Enablers are in denial about the seriousness of the Narc's abuse.

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Enablers avoid conflict to keep the peace.

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Enablers do whatever it takes to protect their Narc from exposure.

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Enablers treat the Narc like a royalty.

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Enablers support the Narc even when they are in the wrong.

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Enablers try to control the victim along with the Narc.

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Enablers think the abuse between the Narc and victim is just a phase. 

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Enablers are always willing to give second, third and fourth chances even when they are the ones being abused.

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Enablers often join in on the abuse, even though they know it is harmful to the victim.

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Enablers are not on the victim's side, but they act as armor-bearers to protect the Narc.

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