Have you ever been around someone so toxic that it was almost impossible to maintain a relationship with them? If you are reading this, you probably have. Many people encounter toxic individuals daily only to find themselves stressed, worried, frustrated, angry, emotionally tired, and spiritually drained. These tainted souls could be spouses, family members, coworkers, associates, or next-door neighbors. Unfortunately, they are everywhere, and if you have not come across them, you are sure to do so at some point in your life. So what can you do to keep your emotional, physical, and spiritual health intact? Love them from a distance.
That’s right! Some people are so full of themselves that they hurt everyone they encounter. They do not know the essence of real love and community. Therefore, they verbally, physically, emotionally, and even spiritually abuse others. It’s not your fault, and there is nothing you can do to change them. It would take divine intervention; of course, you’re not God. As Christians, we are told by Jesus to love our enemies. Yes, a toxic person is an enemy of your soul. Nevertheless, loving them does not require that you allow them to abuse you continually. The Bible says: “Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them” (Ephesians 5:11). Unfortunately, darkness often comes in the form of toxic people. Their works are unfruitful, and they bring about darkness into the lives they seek to harm. Therefore, you do not have to be abused by them; sometimes, the only way to avoid the abuse is by loving them from a distance. Be true first to God and then to yourself. Remember, love never has to hurt, but if it does, love from a distance.
Dr. K L Rich (DMin)
Narcissistic Abuse No More