Premarital and Marital Counseling

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Many people have a low view of marriage because their understanding of it is not with God's design in mind.

Therefore, too many marriages are being built on worldly sand instead of Christ as the Firm Foundation.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7,13

What is Love?

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres...And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Strong and healthy marriages do not happen by accident. You must be intentional for desired results. for if you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.

"Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered" (1 Peter 3:7).

God designed males and females to compliment each other because each sex has unique strengths that when joined together makes one strong body.

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh" (Mark 10:7-8).

God's desire for marriage is for there to be a love between the couple that flourishes spiritually, emotionally, and physically throughout their lifetime together.

"In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body" (Ephesians 5:28-30).

Adam and Eve were created to complement each other in physiological procreation and psychological differences, operate as a team, and exercise dominion over the living things of the earth. But Satan drove a wedge between male and female due to sin; yet, Christ is the wedge remover.


Despite what the enemy has done, The Holy Spirit teaches Christians how to reunite themselves. The breaks can be mended, wedges removed, and walls broken down.


intimacy is a oneness with a healthy separateness. 

Spiritual Intimacy

Couples should be drawn together as they grow in their spiritual relationship with Christ.

Soul Intimacy

The couple must learn to share ideas, thoughts, feelings, emotions, and be vulnerable with one another.

Physical Intimacy

Physical intimacy does not stand independent of an intimacy of spirit and soul. Sexual intimacy in MARRIAGE is meant for celebration.

Marriage is a MINISTRY.

Therefore, a couple's primary ministry should be to Each Other.

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless" (Ephesians 5:22-27)

COMMITMENT implies a pledge by each spouse to fidelity for life.

"But you say, 'Why does he not?” Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant' " (Malachi 2:14).

COMMITMENT is the surrender of personal pleasure and comfort for the best interest of the other party.

"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24).

COMMITMENT requires self-control and a willingness to compromise.

"“Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet?' (Amos 3:3).

COMMITMENT is the unconditional acceptance of the other spouse.

"Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered" (1 Peter 3:7).

COMMITMENT means organizing one's time, thoughts, and resources for the benefit of the other.

"Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever" (1 Timothy 5:88).

COMMITMENT is best understood as it is modeled in the life of Christ.

"For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you might follow in his steps" (1 Peter 2:21).


"A song of ascents. Of Solomon. Unless the LORD builds the house, the builders labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain" (Psalm 127:1).

Christian marriage is marked by discipline and self-denial. Christianity does not therefore depreciate marriage, it sanctifies it. --Dietrich Bonhoeffer